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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I completely remember feeling that way when my kids were toddlers. They suck the fun and spontaneity out of everything. Having come out on the other side (with boys who are 10 and 12), I think the answer is to schedule as little as possible. Including dinner. Who cares what you are eating. Grab a rotisserie chicken, a loaf of bread, and some apples and cheese and head over to a park with the kids after you get home from work. Have a picnic. Play music in the house that you love. Dance around in your underwear. Get silly.

Work - I can't really help you with (can you listen to music while you work?). My only suggestion would be to play hooky one afternoon and go see a movie (without your kids or DH). Obviously, take the time off work. But don't tell anyone else what you are doing.

It does get better.[/quote]

Thanks, PP.  Intellectually I know this.

So question, since you are a mom of two boys - do they want to hang out with you now that they are older?  I mean, now they WANT my attention so bad, and I feel like I don't have it to give (or I just frankly don't have the freaking energy), and then I worry by the time it gets easier they'll be all like, "meh," and it won't be cool to hang out with me. [/quote]

My boys definitely still want to hang out with me (and DH). We watch the Voice, The Great British Bake Off, we go kayaking, we play endless number of games. Sometimes though they are playing something on their own or with each other (or with the kids in the neighborhood) and they will turn down my suggestion of hanging together. Sometimes I will be doing my own thing and I can turn down their suggestion of hanging together (or postpone it). Nobody gets in a fit about it though, which makes all the difference. Of course, we all put a high priority on family time. But it isn't this constant neediness that having a toddler entails.[/quote]

Sounds great!  Good for you.  I have an almost 7-year age difference though (thanks, infertility!) so I'm not sure we'll ever be at your exact point, but I suppose I can see it out there in 5-6 years.  I think maybe DH and I need to divide and conquer with our boys a bit more as it is hard to please an 8 year old and a 1 year old with the same activities.  Case in point we recently went to a great park with our boys where you can kayak and paddle-boat and there are playgrounds and hiking trails and such.  Older son wanted to kayak with both of us.  But alas, no, with a toddler around.  So it ended up being an exhausting trip full of whining and dashed expectations.  Totally our bad.  Next time we go we need a sitter for the little one - he can play on a playground anywhere, no special outing required.  It's like we're friggin rookies again. . .[/quote]

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