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[quote=Anonymous]I am much older so I have experience. My take is:

1) Don't go to HR because they are there to protect the company from lawsuits. You are not suing him you are suing the company. His buddies will all say you are a whore and why didn't you stop this earlier. Or that you liked it before and you changed.
2) You have to learn to handle these situations. You could have told him the brand thus stopping him from reaching to look at the label. You did let this continue (for years?) without stopping it. You could have joked and said "you can look but don't touch." 
3)Know your worth. Men do this to women who let them.  Ask yourself, who are the women they don't behave this way with? Older, successful, friends with their family, same country club etc.? 
4)I know it's hard being the only woman in the group and you want to fit in. But, really women are different and if you can see that and not worry about "being one of the guys"  you will be better off.

I am not judging you or criticizing you, I learned this the hard way by being in your shoes. I can look back and see how naive I was to how men act differently with women.

Also, not all men are like this. It depends on the industry. If you are around the frat/club boy kind you are in more trouble. I actually had to leave a misogynist industry and I felt like a failure but in the end it was the best thing.

Good luck![/quote]

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