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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP and I'm first to admit I can be irrationally upset. I feel like when I go school week days, that my being there is an intrusion. I can tell my DIL maybe mad because she either has to cook more or fancier food because I'm there or order out. Everyone is rushed and I can tell I'm messing up the routine. It's uncomfortable. Nobody makes me feel welcome.

My son works some Saturdays so I know DIL makes time for her parents and family. I wish she would consider me. [/quote]

So stop acting like a special guest star and BRING food over. Either make a lasagna and bring it with you, or pick up some take out on your way to their house! Be a HELPER instead of Queen Mother.[/quote]
This is OP. They are inviting me to dinner! I don't bring food because I'm invited. If I said I brought food you all would tell me to not take over. MIL can't win!

When I invite them to my home for dinner, I don't expect them to think that means they bring the dinner![/quote]

Okay, you really need to relax OP. You're ascribing feelings to your daughter-in-law that probably has no basis in reality:
[i]I can tell my DIL may be mad because she either has to cook more or fancier food because I'm there or order out. 
Everyone is rushed.
I can tell I'm messing up the routine.
Nobody makes me feel welcome.[/i]

This is a bit over the top dramatic. And it's your interpretation. You've stated nothing that any reasonable person would say is rude.

Did you just go last week or the week before--when school started? If so, every household is a bit crazy when the September routine starts up again. 
Please stop being a victim. You DIL invited you over. Take her at face value that she wanted you there. Stop reading into everything just because you can't have what YOU want--a son that brings the kids to you.  [/quote]

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