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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP and I'm first to admit I can be irrationally upset. I feel like when I go school week days, that my being there is an intrusion. I can tell my DIL maybe mad because she either has to cook more or fancier food because I'm there or order out. Everyone is rushed and I can tell I'm messing up the routine. It's uncomfortable. Nobody makes me feel welcome.

My son works some Saturdays so I know DIL makes time for her parents and family. I wish she would consider me. [/quote]

So stop acting like a special guest star and BRING food over. Either make a lasagna and bring it with you, or pick up some take out on your way to their house! Be a HELPER instead of Queen Mother.[/quote]
This is OP. They are inviting me to dinner! I don't bring food because I'm invited. If I said I brought food you all would tell me to not take over. MIL can't win!

When I invite them to my home for dinner, I don't expect them to think that means they bring the dinner![/quote]

You are being ridiculous, OP. Call your son and say, "I'd like to see the grandkids, and I know you see weekdays are better. Can we find a day that would be good for you guys? I'll bring dinner with me so you guys can have a break with the cooking instead of having another mouth to feed." That's not taking over, that's a kindness, a recognition that they're busy, and an offer to help out. Even if they tell you they're happy to cook and you don't need to bring anything, most likely they'll still appreciate the offer.

But please, go ahead and continue to stand on ceremony. It's clearly gotten you what you want so far, I'm sure it will continue to be a raging success.[/quote]

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