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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP and I'm first to admit I can be irrationally upset. I feel like when I go school week days, that my being there is an intrusion. I can tell my DIL maybe mad because she either has to cook more or fancier food because I'm there or order out. Everyone is rushed and I can tell I'm messing up the routine. It's uncomfortable. Nobody makes me feel welcome.

My son works some Saturdays so I know DIL makes time for her parents and family. I wish she would consider me. [/quote]

So stop acting like a special guest star and BRING food over. Either make a lasagna and bring it with you, or pick up some take out on your way to their house! Be a HELPER instead of Queen Mother.[/quote]
This is OP. They are inviting me to dinner! I don't bring food because I'm invited. If I said I brought food you all would tell me to not take over. MIL can't win!

When I invite them to my home for dinner, I don't expect them to think that means they bring the dinner![/quote]

Stop the martyr routine. "I'd love to come over! If it would be helpful, I'd be glad to bring chili and corn bread, or pick up Chinese."[/quote]
If I was the DIL you all would be reeling me to make time for my MIL. You know you would.

I can try these suggestions but I doubt much will change. I'm always left with hurt feelings.[/quote]

Offer to help. Not that hard. Recognize that they are busy, you are the one who needs to be flexible. Not that hard.

You seem to enjoy being So Hurt. [/quote]

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