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[quote=Anonymous]Am reading a great book on girl development, called "untangled."

They talk about popularity--how it's often confused with "power"

Results of studies:  There are popular girls (kind girls who are liked by most), powerful girls, and only a small intersection between the two.  The small intersection of popular+powerful girls were kind girls who also could draw boundaries.

Most of the time, when girls are talking about "popular girls" they are really talking about "mean powerful girls"--a subset that uses social power to control, through being mean or threatening to humiliate others.  They have lots of adjuncts--girls who stay in their shadow to avoid getting targeted--but those girls don't actually *like* the mean girl.

The author recommends clarifying this distinction to help girls navigate this often-hellish stage!  LSS, 7th grade is the worst because mean powerful girls have discovered their power and recipients are very cowed by them.  But by 10th, the potential recipients of the powerful girls' wrath have matured to a place of not being cowed by social threats, and the mean girls start to get shunned.[/quote]

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