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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Often the SAH parent is more in [b]tune with home values [/b]and updates than the non-SAH parent. I'm a SAHM and my husband was indeed initially resistant to large-scale projects (and by large I mean kitchen or basement reno, not 4,000sqft addition), but he would come around when I'd point out [b]that other families with similar incomes and homes had recently done it.[/b][/quote]

This is a very subtle troll post, bravo!!

OP these are not modest improvements , especially since granite is DONE, and he knows you will be itching to renovate the whole kitchen in 5 years tossing out your perfectly good counter top.

And you know home renovation is comsumptive purpose, not investment.  You may get back $0.50 on the dollar spent.

What you need to do is buy your husband time -- find some other way to cut your expenses so he sees how important it is. It *is* your job to communicate what is important to the family; if you believe this counter and floor are important then show him don't tell him. Action!
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Good heavens, I'm the PP and this isn't a troll post, subtle or otherwise. Who said anything about granite? Do you not know that you can update a kitchen or basement on a modest level? Especially if you're affording a house on the stated salary.

My point is that home improvement may not be on the working spouse's radar as much. When we moved into our modest house, it was in livable condition but very outdated in many ways. About 10 years in, the kitchen cabinets were pulling away from the wall; the flooring can't been set properly during an '80s renovation by previous owners; and the flow of the house was quite dependent on making changes, especially as we added kids to the small space. Another 20 years later, we saw that our neighbors with similar incomes and homes were carving livable spaces out of their basements. Again, a working spouse spending long days in an office may not have the time or inclination to see how a home could be improved with a relatively minor investment.

And yes on your point that the process requires time for the working spouse to come around to the idea. Crunching the numbers, refinancing, getting a feel for what the job would cost from different contractors and tucking it away until all ducks are in a row.

And again, good heavens, anyone who has lived through a kitchen or basement reno isn't itching to repeat the process anytime soon.

Chill out, PP! [/quote]

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