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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]He could very well be abusive. You don't know him in the confines of an intimate sexual relationship. She might have texts or journal entries that she showed the lawyer.[/quote]

If he were truly abusive, the wife very likely would seek to cut ties as much as possible.  Requesting lifetime support from a marriage with no children seems like the opposite move, where she seems to want to ensure continuing engagement.  That's the mark of an abuser, not abused.  [/quote]

That is possible. I am divorcing an abuser and my lawyer says 3-4 years of alimony is likely. One year for abuse recovery and 2-3 to finish my education. However even she says the sooner I'm self sufficient the better, because getting his money and being dependent comes at an emotional cost to me. Yet all the therapy and issues I have make picking up a good full time job instantly hard.

Also to OP, the initial claims to divorce are often extremes and since it will most likely not go to court anyway, the statements don't mean a lot. Asking for the extremes is common according to my lawyer and not something to overly stress about. For example, my ex is laying groundwork to sue me for costs. I asked for full custody even though it's  unlikely I'll get it. Also remember the lawyers don't know their clients or the situation very well at this point.

Either way if this was actually your divorce you have your own lawyer who would be telling you not to be overly stressed about her initial claims.[/quote]

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