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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]From a different perspective - these are the babies I always give a little extra to. Newly divorced, stressed mom, terrible baby daddy, probably lots of family drama in general - this baby needs all the help it can get to start into life right. Most dual income, married, employed familiesdont need the gift "showered" on them when a baby is born; the reality is in these types of scenarios, the families often DO need the gifts. Don't think of it as a reward, think of it as a needed hand and a kindnessfor the baby.  [/quote]

That makes sense really. I can do that. I want to help them all be OK without enabling her and her bad choices. 
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Okay, so OP, it is clear that you are confused about the concept of "enabling".  Enabling is buying the booze for an alcoholic, or inviting the mom to a single's bar and leaving her there, or giving a gambler a ride to the casino, or ...  Buying formula or dropping off diapers or buying some onsies at JC Penney's when they are on sale or paying the electric bill if the power is about to be shut off or paying for a Metro card or dropping off a load of groceries do NOT constitute enabling the mom and they sure DO help the baby.[/quote]

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