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[quote=Anonymous]12:04, I have not heard of limerence before so thank you for pointing that out. I'm sorry about your situation but at least you seem to have a good handle on it.

I'm currently coaching myself into not replying to any of her emails (if she sends any) when we go back to work. I have to see her in person in a few weeks (can't be avoided) and I assume that will aggravate this problem.

I could talk about her and the many things I like about her for quite a while, so I think I unintentionally or subconsciously gave everyone the impression that she's the aggressor. While she did give me praise and voluntarily told me she finds me attractive (something I've never heard before from anyone other than my wife), I also did not shut her down. I did not turn her away, and her kindness was and is something I covet. Knowing full well she's like this with a lot of people, and in fact I still think she was just being nice because maybe I'm her project sometimes. To make matters even weirder, I do really care about her. We have some things in common and we talk about them in a healthy reciprocal way. But in my mind it's gotten wrapped unto this non-productive, unrealistic crush.

As you can tell,  I am several days into this near-obsessive thought process where she's on my mind way too much. I know she's not perfect, and the idea of ruining our families is a nightmare that I focus on avoiding, and will avoid, but in the meantime I'm stuck in this thought prison. Seeing her in a few days will not help.

If I avoid replying to her emails for too long she is going to ask questions about why the sudden lapse in contact, but I think I'll just have to ignore that too so as to not reveal my embarrassing, one-sided feelings. This is a huge misunderstanding that has reduced me to a 12 year old boy.[/quote]

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