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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I agree with her.  If you had an older boy, it makes sense to reuse some things like pants but to buy them and force your beliefs on your child is exhausting.  You are just as imposing as grandma.  Dress her like a girl as she is one.  Why confuse a child?  If she chooses differently later on, support her.[/quote]

Force my beliefs on her? Like I said in the OP, she has dresses, pants, skirts ... everything. So I'm supposed to say, "you know, those pants are cute, but they're in the 'boy' section, so I won't get them for her"? That's ridiculous to me. [/quote]

If you had a boy, and you saw a cute dress in the girls department, would you get it for your son?[/quote]

Let's keep the comparison equivalent here.  I have one of each.  The baby boy wore a pair of his sister's old leggings to daycare this morning.  My DD wore pants from the boys section too when she was a baby. So yes, I would buy pants from either section and will shop based on cut etc more than whether it's marketed for a boy or a girl.

My DD who is now 3 adores PINK, so yeah, she is currently wearing a lot of that.  The pants I bought her from the boys section do not seem to have confused her at all.  She sees them as "pants".  [/quote]

OP here -- and yes, I agree that we need to keep the comparison equivalent. I try to be flexible in what I buy for my daughter, but I don't buy clothes that very clearly proclaim the child is a boy. Ex: onesies that say "little dude." If I had a boy, I'd be totally ok getting him a pink, flowery onesie, or one with a picture of minnie mouse, but probably wouldn't get him a dress. So I guess you can get upset at me for not having 100% flexibility.

That said, the only limitation we are going to impose, toys-wise, is not allowing violent toys (no guns, no violent games). And if our daughter wants to wear a man's suit when she's older, more power to her. [/quote]

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