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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]While the right decision is likely to not have an abuser in the life of the child, the removal of that person and the destruction of the relationship and family can for some kids be very traumatic. Knowing because they said something, they lost someone they may have loved deeply...can be had to process.

The child's experience is very different than the adults around them. Depending on what happened, the child may not have felt traumatized by the abuse. It obviously bothered them but it may not at this point have an effect the child (although it may have a later effect)

Some children can experience sexual abuse and it doesn't impact them...until they are 20...or 30..or 40 or even later. [/quote]
I had no idea DCUM had so many child sexual abuse apologists on it. Disturbing and disgusting. [/quote]
Yeah, oddly some on DCUM will argue that kids are permanently damaged by divorce, but not so much from sexual abuse by a family member. (Now, if the perp is a stranger, they want the death penalty.)[/quote]
It is insane the way people can deny or justify something so horrific! Someone I love was sexually abused as a child and her mother ignored/facilitated it. She was a lifelong alcoholic who drank to soothe the pain and block out the memories.[/quote]
NP here. I'm reading the first PP quite differently than you all. It sounds like they are saying that the child will have difficulty understanding the current separation from alleged abuser, because right now they haven't fully processed what the abuse means to them. Eventually they will understand it and that will bring it's own trauma, but right now the trauma they do understand is being separated from the alleged abuser.

This doesn't mean you shouldn't separate the child from the abuser; it means you should be aware that the child will have difficulty understanding the separation and needs support around that issue as well.[/quote]

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