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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One-year old birthday parties are horribly boring.  I would never expect someone to attend, much less to fly across the country to do so while they're about to finish their PhD.  Just accept that you're the only one who cares about the party and move on.  (And yes, I have little kids, and I have thrown birthday parties for them).

As for graduation, if you want to go out there and see hers, then great.  But don't expect reciprocity.  Graduations are also horribly boring.  It's one thing to be there for someone to support them, but you can do that in any number of ways without actually sitting through the ceremony.

Finally, as for kids, no one is as interested in your kids as you are.  Frankly, you sound like the type of person that expects others to care about the minute details of your kid's life.  Much like all the above, get over the fact that no one else really cares.  Sure, they don't want harm to come to your kid, and probably enjoy actually spending time with them, but they don't want to listen to you drone on and on about sleep schedules, feedings, etc.

You can be upset about whatever you want to be upset about, but you're not justified to be upset at your sister for this.[/quote]

I'm not going to make assumptions about what kind of conversations you're trying to have with your sister about your child, OP, but I think it's worth considering if the pp may be right here. Not because of anything about you, but because it's a really common trap for newer parents to fall into. Whatever you're trying to talk to your sister about re your child, think about how interested you would be in listening to the equivalent conversation about her dissertation. Big events and issues are worth mentioning and should be acknowledged, but most people don't care about the day-to-day minutia either parenting or dissertation-writing.[/quote]

The thing is that she doesn't even talk to me about her dissertation. It's all about grad dept drama. For hours and hours. [/quote]

Are you being deliberately obtuse? Substitute "grad dept drama" for "dissertation-writing" above, the same point still stands.[/quote]

No, I'm not. If she was talking about substantive issues, that would be one thing. Hearing about how stupid the other grad students in her dept are for the 1,000th time is another, in my mind.[/quote]

In other words, you are as bored by her as she is by you.[/quote]

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