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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How many children does your MIL have? This might be an insecurity thing. I've seen some women (not most certainly) get weirdly threatened by another woman having more kids, particularly if that woman also has a great career. It's like you are showing off or showing them up by making different choices (ridiculous I know, but some people get super weird about woman who are successful both at motherhood and professionally).[/quote]

Having lots of kids doesn't make you "successful at motherhood."  It just means you had unprotected sex and decided to keep the baby.  The truth is, having three kids with "two great careers" as the OP says, is hard - it's hard to be a great mom and good at your job, which she has as much admitted by conceding that she gets lots of help at home.  Old school people feel as though if you can't be there for your children in a certain way, then why keep having them?  Given that most of us are doing hellish commutes with demanding jobs, I can see how they could feel this way.  However, it is not their place to make these statements.  You are entitled to feel the way you feel - it's how you act on it that can cause problems.  Also, OP, are you sure your husband doesn't discuss your marital issues with your parents?  Maybe your MIL is hearing things from him.  This happened in my family when my brother and SIL announced their second kid.  My mom wasn't very supportive because they had so many financial and relationship problems (job instability and not speaking to each other for stretches of time).[/quote]

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