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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here...
[b]I'm totally not spoiled[/b] and in fact small celebrations like dinner or movie will make me more than happy.
MIL is a drama queen and it's always about her, [u]even mother's day. She will not acknowledge that I am a mother too and want to spend a special day for myself with my children. [/u]She is forever the center of the attention. [u]Also, my DH and I are few days apart so we usually celebrate our birthdays together.[/u]
Perhaps, [u]throughout the year I just feel like there isn't a day I feel it's special for me[/u] :([/quote]

You claim not to be spoiled, but the underlined examples of your own contradict that.

Most families I know don't take the whole day of Mother's Day for one person.  Most have lunch/brunch for Mom and dinner for Grandma or vice versa.  Some even celebrate Mother's Day for one the night before.  When we are visiting either Grandma or either Grandma is here with us, we pick one meal and celebrate all the mothers.  Same with Father's Day.   Also, after college, the birthdays are less important.  If you can celebrate, you do.   If you miss one, be an adult and just realize that it's no longer so important to celebrate your birthday.  Milestones, yes, but regular annual birthdays?  Only if there isn't anything else.

Also, if you can move your birthday celebration to another day to celebrate with your husband, why can't you move your own Mother's Day celebration with your kids to Saturday and celebrate Mother's Day Sunday with your MIL? Why can't you move your wedding anniversary celebrations to the following weekend and celebrate MIL's birthday when she asks?  Basically you are spoiled.  You want to do what you want when you want and you want the world to follow.  You act like you are the center of the universe and the universe is expected to revolve around you.  And you're upset when it doesn't.

Put things in perspective, be flexible, adjust the schedule as needed.  There are days before and after each occasion and just because you celebrate Mother's Day on Saturday or your anniversary 4 days afterwards, doesn't make the celebration less important, it just makes you more mature.  Right now you are acting childish.[/quote]

Amen to all of the above.[/quote]

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