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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Read up on the power and control wheel: http://www.ncdsv.org/images/PowerControlwheelNOSHADING.pdf 
Here are some stories about why people stay: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2014/09/12/why-didnt-you-just-leave_n_5805134.html [/quote]

I read those stories and rather than have sympathy for those women, I have a lot of disgust.  I'm a child survivor of horrific domestic violence - I have siblings that did not survive.  My father was the abuser, my mother was the enabler.  Had my father not killed himself, I have no doubt my mother would still be with him. I have a relationship with my mother but I haven't forgiven her.  After I had kids of my own, the reality of what happened to my siblings and me hit me like a ton of bricks.

I spent years in therapy in order to come to acceptance - but that doesn't mean I don't judge her and all those women who allow themselves to be in a relationship with an abuser.  Spout all you want about how they were lulled into it, that they had low self-esteem, that they were afraid, that they were isolated, whatever.  There are some things worse than living.  I know because I lived it. It's the kids that are the true victims.[/quote]

I'm sorry you had to go through that. You might want to consider returning to therapy, because it's clear you still have a lot of anger about what happened to you. I hate to think of what that anger must be doing to you. I hope you can find peace.[/quote]

I'm the PP you're responding to. I don't know why you think my lack of sympathy for these women is because of anger.  It's not.  You clearly have no experience with this and are just repeating what you think is supposed to be said.  I find it difficult to understand why you feel compelled to post..  [/quote]

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