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[quote=Anonymous]OP, I think the problem is that not everyone needs to have some all-encompassing hobby, but everyone needs some space to focus on themselves and their interests.  So, your husband has funneled all of his energy into one hobby that take a lot of time and money.  Okay, if you are okay with that generally, that's great.  But then you also have to be able to say that your "hobby" is just enjoying life, like eating out, reading books, and taking vacations every now and then.  And thus you would like to make sure that the time is split between his laser-focused hobby and your kind of amorphous enjoyment of life.  I think the problem here is that it's okay to want some attention and interest into a more nebulous enjoyment of life (like what you describe), but that you are not valuing that yourself.  Not everyone gets super amped on some specific thing.  That's okay.  Talk to your husband about finding ways to spend time equally with each other -- and that your "hobby" is not a single thing but a lifestyle (enjoying downtime, really it seems).  [/quote]

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