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[quote=Anonymous]OP, you're not getting very helpful answers, but that's primarily because of how you phrased your OP.

The reality is that most universities have policies barring students and professors from having a romantic relationship, and so it is a reportable thing *if you know for sure* it's happening. You don't know that, and it will not serve you to make a baseless allegation.

Your real issue, if I'm reading you correctly, is that you are frustrated that whatever is going on is impacting your access to your advisor. That's a legitimate issue, and it's a legitimate one to bring up. My PhD adviser was notoriously difficult to track down...so much so that he was a terrible choice as an advisor for students who needed/wanted more active mentoring.

His availability, though, was a completely legitimate thing to bring up with him, and he would often try to improve on this point. You can and should tell your advisor that you need more of his time, and you should suggest a few ways to make that easier: set-up a standing weekly meeting and agree to provide an agenda of topics you need to discuss beforehand, prepare for the meetings by having something to show him (this will make the meetings more interesting for him assuming he still enjoys is research), if you send emails include a really clear question to which you want an answer etc. Deal with the problem that is your business to get what you want, and don't worry so much about others.[/quote]

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