Reply to Dating with extra weight after divorce

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Dating with extra weight after divorce"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Ugh, OP, some of these people are awful.  Look, the best thing I did when online dating was he really honest upfront..accurate pic, and then I always described myself in memail very accurately.  I weeded out the people who considered fat a moral failing or repugnant.  It was a great filter: I have no desire to be with someone who prioritizes appearance over personality or character.  You've been through a major trauma and you've coped as best you could while prioritizing your kids.  That's awesome.

Don't set yourself up for rejection by surprising this guy with your size.  You can just be honest and say you're a bit apprehensive b/c your pic doesn't show your whole body and you don't want to waste each other's time if he'd consider extra pounds a total deal breaker.  I've had huge reply back like, "thanks, I think we wouldn't be a great fit, and I wish you well!" And I consider that a win. No wasting time.

Btw, I found my husband online and he loved me at that size.  I have lost 50 pounds since and he loves me still.  It's nice to be with someone who accepts me as I am and supports my goals, especially when my goals had nothing to do with weight loss!  (That was a surprise benefit.) Good luck![/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics