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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just curious, does yiur DH get on the floor and wrestle with your boys? My boys libe wrestling, especially my 7yr old. Hes a tackler, [b]loves running full speed and tackling just about anything.  However, my DH has always bee a get on the floor roll around, flip em over kind of dad.  Hes a human jungle gym. I really think that kind of interaction with their father gave them the safe space to be very physical ina very safe and positive way. So for them, wrestling is a bit affectionate and is definitely something one does outnof fun, not agression or from a mean place.[/b]

Maybe have your DH essentially role play with them so the rough physical contact isn't such a scary thing.[/quote]

I am a family therapist and I cannot stress how important the bolded is. This sort of play between fathers and sons is so healthy and actually builds self esteem and confidence.[/quote]

Glad to hear this.  My son and husband spar constantly!

OP, i think there's a balance between being sensitive and empathetic, and also encouraging their boys to find their own strength.  Do you react dramatically to their sense of upset?  If so, you may be inadvertently signalling to them that it's a big deal that can only be handled by walking away.

Most parents have the experience of a child tumbling and falling.  They kind of look to your for a cue on how to react.  If you look horrified and run to them right away, they will burst into tears and get very upset.  If you say, you're okay!  with a smile, they're likely to just move on to the next thing.

While not minimizing their feelings, maybe you can help your boys to find other ways to react than just crying and walking away.  Again, perhaps using language assertively, maybe getting some space or taking a time out, etc.

You might want to read the Highly SEnsitive Child by Elaine Aronson, too.  Some kids are sensitive, but you still need to help them find resilience.   [/quote]

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