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[quote=Anonymous]I don't agree with the PPs who are criticizing you for the playdates ending.  If the kid is upset and ready to go, fine.  I think it depends on the situation, but it's perfectly okay for kids to have limits and to want to take a break if things get to be too much.  Stop for a moment and think about what the rhetoric would be if these were girls who not comfortable with a certain level of physicality or aggression.  People would not be saying to "suck it up" and "boys will be boys" because we (hopefully, some of us) have now learned that this is exactly what perpetuates rape culture.  I don't see why it's any different with boys.  Boys have a right to have limits and to want the aggressive behavior to be curbed at some point.

I would support them as best you can and help them to see that they can say no and walk away when they want to, but that it doesn't have to be a big deal.  They don't have to end a playdate because of it, unless the other person isn't willing to accept their "no."  Help them learn how to say they need a break and go get some water or do something else for a few minutes to calm down and get away from it, and if they feel like going back to roughhousing, they can.[/quote]

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