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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are your SILs responsible for maintaining the relationship(s).  What's wrong with your brothers?

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Sounds like there wasn't actually a relationship to maintain in the first place. OP was busy enabling the MIL From Hell and now that she's out of the picture, siblings want nothing to do with her. And she thinks she's owed a relationship and should be considered family just because, as she repeatedly says, she's never said something nasty to them directly.

OP, here's a newsflash: to have a friend, you need to be a friend. The siblings could have used your help back when they were dealing with your mother, who they likely felt a tiny bit of obligation towards since she birthed their husbands. But since you made it clear that their battles were their own battles, and that you weren't getting into it because you prefer to be "the peacekeeper" and not call out behavior when you see it, they decided that they don't owe you anything. And I agree with them.

They were all relieved when your mother passed away, since they felt that they could finally move on with their lives without toxic people who treat them like crap and think they can get away with it because they're "family". They don't want anything to do with you.

See it as a learning experience: When you allow other people to be treated like crap and say nothing, those people won't want you around later when they could spend time with real friends who have respect for them. AKA you reap what you sow.[/quote]

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