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[quote=Anonymous]OP here. No luck on the number change, but the calls seemed to have stopped. We did convince my mother to go on a week long trip with her college friends. She had plans with her ex to go on a local long weekend trip, so she canceled on her friends. She's done this for nearly 25 years, so we were surprised when she told us last Spring that she wasn't going this year. It's a relief that she's getting out of town.

What's crazy is that no one could have expected these events. We were all happy for my mom. Hell, my brother and Layla bought my mother and her ex tickets to a wine festival. It's bizzaro world.

But looking back, I think we could see things. My other sister in law was hospitalized briefly a month ago and my mother canceled plans with her ex to help out while she was in the hospital (they live 3 hours from her and SIL's parents have passed...so my mother is the closet family who could conceivably help). My mother said her ex was upset but we all attributed it to being disappointed about the canceled plans.

And my mother and her ex came by my town twice in the last few months but they wouldn't stop by or let us meet up with them for lunch or coffee or anything, which is strange because my mother -- pre-ex -- always loved to use those coincidental visits as a chance to see her grandchildren.  We just attributed to them being on a schedule, but my mother admitted it was her ex who didn't want to be bothered stopping.

And the offending Layla to the point where my brother wouldn't want to speak to my mother should she stay with the ex. It's was on purpose. He picked Layla for a reason.

And the guns. The handgun just sitting in that glove compartment.

It all points to a pattern of isolating my mother from her support system. We already live hours away. Cutting us out from speaking to her or seeing her...it was a textbook setting the stage for abuse.

The shock is slowly leaving, but I am seeing things more clearly. I never, in a million years, would have thought my senior citizen mother would be dealing with this. It's eye opening. [/quote]

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