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[quote=Anonymous]What do you mean when you say "focus more on intimacy"? Do you mean simply your own pleasure, or do you mean bonding with your husband via sexual and physical closeness? 
Do you know why he has no desire? Does he? If not, I would urge a physical and have them test for low t, which can only be picked up in a blood test. It is not a routine test, so he will need to ask for it. How does he sleep? Does he excersize? 
As for you, do you know what feels good? I'd suggest you do some self exploring either alone or with your husband next to you. 
Know that sex therapists are professionals, and if they cannot deal with your position on drinking, then they are not serving you well. 
I'd also suggest you look at some of the Mormon teachings on sex within marriage. They are very healthy if you get to the right sources, I'd start with The Ensign which is the church magazine. Also look at lds.org which is the church web site. 
I suggest all this because neither of you drink, and because you I assume want to remain in the marriage or at least try to. This coupled with a physical should get you going. I'd also suggest you have a physical too. I am assuming that he isn't gay, and that you are not a lesbian, if you are, or he is, then the Mormon approach will not help you. 
You do mention "an aforadable" therapist, and I am wondering if that is code for "I don't want to spend money". Know that divorce isn't easy or cheap either. You will note that aside from the physicals, my other suggestions won't cost you anything.I wish both of you well. 
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