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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are you planning to have kids?  Because all of a sudden that makes the ILs a different part of your life than they were before.  You're connected in a much different way.

Better to have a good relationship with them--and having some comfort level with them without your DH is an amazing thing to have.

Unless there's some backstory you're not telling us, you go. This isn't a question.[/quote]

New poster here. OP, a huge +1 to this post here.

Also, even if you never have kids, having a decent relationship with the people who raised your husband is both useful and enriching. I do get that maybe you dont' see anything "enriching" in spending time with anyone who is not already extremely close to you--is that the case? But think of this: If you're married, knowing your spouse's family tells you so much about who your spouse was before you met, and what your spouse may be like as you grow older together. And your in-laws could become real supports for you when DH is not around (does he travel much for work or is this trip unusual?). And yes, you might actually need the support of someone who is not your DH at some point in your life when he's gone. They might even end up being friends in their own right. Being an introvert does not mean having only a relationship with your spouse and no one else in the world, or else introverts would never have friends, work colleagues, or relatives they want to see.

Does your DH know how very strongly you want to be alone when he's not there? Do you also find yourself, while he's gone, not only wanting to avoid one evening with the in-laws but also wanting NOT to see anyone, like a friend or relative of your own? Have you talked to him about this? If this is multiple weeks of zero contact with anyone until DH is back -- you might seriously consider whether you have a phobia or other issues that could benefit from therapy. I realize that being introverted per se is not some "condition" to treat, but if you're really not wanting to see anyone ever other than your DH, you might be too dependent on him for all your social interaction. I hope that's not the case.

I'd go back and re-read the post above from the person who identifies as introverted, who has learned not to use introversion as a way to turn down contact with others.
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