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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I completely understand why you don't want to go; it would be stressful for me, too.  My guess is that your ILs are extroverts who kindly think you're lonely while DH is away.  I think you should go, though, because they're trying to be nice.

What I don't understand is why people on this thread feel the need to tell the OP to "grow up" because this situation makes her uncomfortable and she doesn't want to go.  This is the kind of situation that extroverts don't seem to understand, though.  And, introverts have to go along or they're branded as rude or apparently, not grown up.  OP's hesitancy to go to dinner with the ILs is not a personal statement about the ILs.[/quote]

For the love - I am an introvert with mild social anxiety but being that way doesn't mean that I get a free pass to be rude and passive aggressive.  It's one night.  I get that it might wipe her out for a few days, but it's 90 minutes.  That's shorter than some people's commutes or a sonogram visit.  She can really suck it up, bank some positive karma with the in laws, and (possibly because my in laws would do this as would my parents) get a free meal. Her comment that her husband should have thought of her feelings and tell his parents to not contact her is just bizarre and childish.  It is exhausting when my in laws come to visit but they also know how draining it is for me so work a balance out, but we've only gotten to this point because everyone acted like adults, I didn't cling to the "but I'm an INTROVERT! so pass me the fainting chair" nonsense.

OP - it's 90 minutes tops.  Pick a place you like, get a drink, ask questions about his childhood to get the really funny stories, and plan for the mentally recovery the next day.  It will pave the road for the future - especially when/if kids enter the picture.  [/quote]

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