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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Got married at 21, had last child by 27.

IF it works out, it is the best thing ever. But it's a big "if"! Having kids so young was a deeply isolating experience. We are white, so there's no cultural fabric of people around us who have chosen similar timelines. And we are millennials living in NYC so, needless to say, we march to the beat of our own drummer. It is not a path followed by hardly any college educated professionals, which we also are. We have always made excellent money, which is how we floated daycare payments plus saved for retirement.

We are 31 now, and most of my friends are completely jealous of the fact that I'm about to have two elementary schoolers. I have friends who wish the did what we did but, truthfully, I don't think they'd have had the dicipline to do what we've done. Our careers haven't suffered, as we will probably cross a HHI of $500,000 in a few years. That said, our social life is pretty bleak. Most of our friends are much older. We've always made decisions sort of in our own world.

Most of our friends are starting to get nervous about putting it all together, and having kids ridiculously early has, oddly, been easier on our careers than having a kid mid 30s would have been, when you're trying to make partner with a baby and toddler underfoot.

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There are several studies that say you did the right thing economically by having kids early: it's easier on your career and earning potential. [/quote]

Really, my husband had kids early and later.  Later financially and emotionally was much easier.  He had his first at 18, then a few more.  They divorced after 10 years.  Since the divorce, he got his degree and has done much better.  [/quote]

Having a baby at 18 obviously isn't wise.

The NPR segment I'm referring to really focused on the old fashioned approach of graduating from college and quickly marrying and popping out two kids. The data really seemed to focus on women and what's best for them: get a degree, marry a guy with a degree and good job, stay home for a little while with your babies, then build your career. Life does get easier when your kids are in school all day (cheaper too). [/quote]

I have a degree, worked 10+ years, and now SAH.  If I went back I'd make next to nothing and at that point its not worth going back given I'll be close to retirement age.  Even if I went back now, my income would be so low it wouldn't cover before/after school with much left over.  If you leave the work force, you know you may not make as much or struggle going back.[/quote]

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