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[quote=Anonymous]My parents divorced when I was young, and I grew up doing the joint custody thing, which was far more normal to me than a nuclear family by the time I was off to college.  I have no idea what caused the divorce, but it is hard to imagine they'd be less happy together than they are now.  My mother re-married to an older man who is, surprise, now really old and cranky, while she is still relatively youthful for her age.  As he's gotten older and lost his filter, some other things have started coming out such as some latent racism and strong political leanings.  Not to mention he apparently wasn't the best father to his own kids (all older, never met them except brief every few years visits) and was in the military for a number of years, has never lost the mentality, and is of course never wrong.  The short of it, she resents him and hates being married to him, but is sticking it out to the end.

My father remarried to a woman who was sweet for many years, but has gone through some changes that I don't want to get into now. Basically, her personality changed over time into that of a really mean, childish person who we can barely stand to be around.  And she doesn't like our kids, I think mostly due to the changes she has undergone.  Sadly, if you met her walking the dog around the neighborhood...sweet as pie, but we get a very different person.  Unfortunately, my father recognizes this, and it has been pointed out to him by multiple other people, but chooses to "make the best of it."  The result is he sees far less of his grandkids than he would like, but we were clear with him after the 10th, 20th, 50th incident that if he wanted to see us, it would have to be without her.  His choice to make.

Both of my parents had very good careers and didn't need to be married again for financial reasons, etc.  It would have been far better if they had both remained single, but everyone has 20/20 hindsight.[/quote]

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