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[quote=Anonymous]OP, my husband and I were going through this 3+ years ago--debating whether we should have kids. I think if either one of us were super gung-ho about having kids from the onset, we would have done it. But we were both on the fence. We thought we would be happy as a twosome--we enjoyed traveling, even lived abroad, and going out, etc. It would have been a good life.

But then I'd picture future Christmases and holidays, etc., and for me--the picture "looked" a little too quiet. We waited about 4 years before moving forward with it, and I was 36 when we got married so you can do the math. We had some trouble getting pregnant, but it eventually happened and I couldn't be more in love.

He's 2.5. When he was younger...I don't know if regret was what I was feeling. But I certainly missed being able to walk out the door and grab dinner and drinks with my husband. And I missed sleeping in (I still do). And my husband are working on getting back to being husband and wife--not just mom and dad.

But would I go back to pre-child now? No--never. I'm actually now trying to come to peace with not having a second child, which I think I/we would do if we had started a family a few years prior.

As I suspected, my child has brought so much more meaning to my days--not just those Christmas mornings when I can't wait to see his face light up. But little things, too. Tasting ice cream for the first time, looking at his face as he sees a giraffe at the zoo, studying his quizzical face as he looks at a bubbling pancake on the stove or me cracking open an egg. He's made me appreciate everyday that much more.[/quote]

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