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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I never had a good relationship with my only brother, we didn't care much about each other when we were kids.  A few years ago I was getting married, I decided "what the heck, I'll invite him to the wedding. Sure, we only talk on each other's birthdays, but what the heck?":)   Now our invitation said "no children" and my fiance and I really meant  "no children."  Brother and SIL threw a huge tantrum, saying that I was mean and I was only excluding their three children.  Who, may I add, at that time were all under the age of 5.  DH's nieces and nephews also were "excluded" but no one had a fit and parents were very understanding.  This was a destination wedding, relatively small.  They ended up not coming, sent me a really mean nastygram via e-mail, so I blocked them from our lives.

Couples months ago DH and I had our first child.  For whatever reason, my parents told my brother.  Out of the blue, SIL writes me this very sugar-y e-mail saying how much she has missed "us" and that the children cannot wait to meet their new sibling.  No apologies whatsoever for the nastygram they sent us.  Now I haven't talked to these people in 6 years.  We did a good job avoiding each other at family gatherings.  Their children don't say hello to me when I visit my parents.  So I am trying to understand the mentality of "why now?  why do you want to meet my child?" Who are these self-entitled people?

Sorry for the vent.

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Honestly, it sounds like you are all a bunch of children. Grow up.[/quote]

"For whatever reason, my parents told my brother" - Um were you expecting them to keep it w a secret for your whole life?  [/quote]

That jumped out at me, too.  Of course your parents told your brother that you had a baby.  Seriously.

OP, it sounds like whatever these people do, you are going to interpret it in the most negative light possible.  Maybe your SIL was just writing a nice congratulatory note. Maybe her kids really are excited at the idea of having a cousin.  But your presence isn't some giant gift that people feel "entitled" to.  Really, get over yourself.  She was just being polite.  You, on the other hand, cut your brother and his family out of your life over one incident.  And held a grudge for years.  Probably no one else even remembers your wedding.  Either respond politely or let it go, but get over yourself.  [/quote]

Nailed it.[/quote]

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