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[quote=Anonymous]NP here.

OP, I interpret your post to mean that you aren't so much upset about not being able to spend time with him.  You're upset about the change in his tone -- that he seemed so into you, and now he just seems "meh" about seeing or not seeing you.

You are right to see this as a red flag.

I've dated two guys like this in the past.  Both were older than I was at the time.  Both pursued me hard, made huge declarations of love, seemed all into me, and then, when they had me, when I started to reciprocate the interest, they seemed sort of indifferent.

The first one ended up cheating on me and breaking up with me.  I was devastated.

The second time this happened (a few years later), I was wiser.  I backed off, and then he suddenly got interested again.  But by that point, I realized I didn't want to have to play games, so I dumped him.

Some men like the conquest and the thrill of the chase.  They see it as a challenge.  The more reluctant you are in the beginning, the harder they pursue.  They pour on the romance.  They make declarations.  But then they lose interest when they seem to have your attention.  Then they gaslight you and act like you're the needy one.

My advice to you is to back off.  Take some space.  Trust your gut. [/quote]

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