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[quote=Anonymous]I think it's silly and annoying to do that list, but I do also think that many parents who aren't the default really don't understand what being the default means.

I'm the default parent and do many of the above things, including researching dentists.  Even when my DH takes my kid to the dentist, it is a place I picked, organized, scheduled appointments and it's just that for some reason I can't take the kid so I tell my husband where and when to go.

I think it's interesting and probably eye opening to the non-default parent to see all the tasks that really go into the simple teeth cleaning they attended once.

Don't flame me - I'm not saying my work as default is that hard, but it is time consuming and it is done on top of my real job.  Also, researching a dentist may not be the world's most time consuming task but my kids see pediatricians, dentists, eye doctors and one sees an endocrinologist. One sees an ENT and one needs orthodics. That stuff adds up quickly, just in the medical area.

I think my DH and I are mostly happy with the division of household tasks (I do most kid related stuff, he does most house related stuff) but I do think many people forget how much work is entailed in being the default.[/quote]

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