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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We've been very fortunate to have the grandparents in our kids lives.  We have great memories of holidays, going out fun places with them, and just spending time with them.  It was always such a comfort to know that we had people who genuinely adored our kids a phone call away.

They are getting older now (80s) but aren't too much trouble.  I think they've got a handle on things pretty well which is a blessing.[/quote]

What's the point of your smug post? My parents had "a handle on things pretty well" but one died of ovarian cancer at 63 and the other of Alzheimers at 83. It sucked, for them, for me, and for their grandchildren who only have memories of them in various stages of dying. I'm 48 and I really feel like the harbinger of doom with so many friends who act as though this is never going to happen to them. Their biggest problem is when their parents cut off the checks for private school or refuse to fork over a down payment for their new house. [/quote]

I lost my dad to early onset Alzheimer's when I was around 30.  And there were years of nursing home care leading up to that and a decline before that.  I was never in the position to give hands on heavy duty care although I did visit him regularly when he was sick.  It was a hellish nightmare. No exaggeration.

The point of my post was not to be smug.  I'm just grateful for the grandparents who have been able to be in my kids' lives. They've been a true blessing.  I hope and pray that they continue to enjoy reasonably good physical and mental health and that when/if the hard stuff comes for them it is brief.  I know that hoping doesn't make that happen.  I am sorry that you've been through what you've been through.  It is truly a fear for me, too.[/quote]

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