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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here -- I'm Indian American, but was raised very differently in a family of 3 girls where we were expected to focus on our studies and be independent and not cater to Indian patriarchy, so I'm just not used to it.  When my parents come to visit, they actually help with everything and more than carry their fair share of the weight.

Thanks everyone, I just needed to vent, and you're right I should just suck it up.  6 days and counting![/quote]
OP, I'm Indian-American, but my DH is not.  While my ILs don't expect me to wait on them, they are pretty helpless when they visit because they won't drive etc.  I've instituted a rule that DH has to take some time off work when they come to visit (not necessarily for the whole visit).  It actually works out, because they visit as much to get time with him as with the grandkids...and DH enjoys their visit more too.

If things are stressful for you, then your DH also needs to defend you a little more.  This might be in more subtle forms like suggesting going out to dinner.  But the less he acts like he accepts the default notion that you should be doing everything except when he "helps", the less they will act like it.[/quote]

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