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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op here.

I see "we" as tacky. There was never a "them" to begin with. She's trying to force some semblance of amicability but it's far from the reality.

She quit her job once the child support was established. Both her kids are in school FT and they have split custody. He pays child support and has an ad-hoc schedule for visits due to his work.. She is trying to convince him to quit his job so that he can be around the child more often (he travels extensively for work and spends time between three states.)

What he's doing already isn't enough for her. I think it's a little ridiculous he's paying her an excess of $4200/month plus pays for her health insurance and visiting when he can for an arrangement he didn't ask for. Yet she continues to blast him but play nice when he plays by her rules. [/quote]

What's really tacky is not being involved in your child's life and using work travel as an excuse.

She is using "we" because she wants him to *gasp* be more involved in his kid's life. How horrible. [/quote]

If he quit his job, he would not be able to find a similar paying job in his area.

It's a child he didn't ask for. He obliges with the child support and visits but he can't quit his job without suffering a serious pay cut. [b]That's not fair to him to expect him to adjust his life completley. [/b]Maybe if they were married or actually in a relationship but she chose to have the baby after he told her he wasn't ready and didn't want to be a father. Fatherhood should not be a punishment.[/quote]

He doesn't get to tell her to have an abortion because he's not ready. That's not his decision to make. The point at which he had a decision about whether or not a baby results from sex was when he decided to either USE A CONDOM or put his pants on and leave. He chose to have sex without protection, and as conservatives are so fond of saying, if you don't want the responsibility of raising a child, keep your legs together. Otherwise, take some responsibility for the child you created.

As for the bolded, maybe it's not fair to him, but what's actually not fair is that he fathered a child he didn't want in the first place and is now not involved in her life so that he can travel for work. It's also unfair that that little girl has an aunt who cares more about her brother being inconvenienced by a child that he fathered all on his own than the child that he's ignoring. [/quote]

I'm also getting the vibe that sis believes that this child's mother and her family situation is beneath her brother and family. She is embarrassed to be connected to them. Gross.
It's not the child and mother that are the problem here. Money cannot buy decency and class. Stop clutching your pearls about pointless drama on social media and focus on being a decent human being to YOUR NIECE. [/quote]

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