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[quote=Anonymous]Is this really so hard to understand?  I think most people spend most of their lives in some shade of denial about mortality.  And even most of us who have lost someone don't spend much time dealing with death and disease.  I work in an office.  I like it, and it is refreshingly sterile and devoid of reminders of our mortality.  Unless you are an oncologist or combat infantry or hospice nurse or something, most people don't spend their days elbow-deep in the shit, piss, blood, and awful pain of end of life.  The horror of that experience is kept at a distance, even though we know it exists.  And it is horrifying when you find yourself in it - up close and personal - when it is your friend or mom or child screaming in pain or confusion.  A once comforting scripture seems vain or insulting doggerel in response to your loved one slowly being eaten alive by cancer and chemo.   And even those with a more logically grounded  belief system find it cannot stand up to the sheer horror.  That you knew death would happen eventually is not sufficient safeguard for one's belief system confronted with a painful, messy, flesh-and-bone-and-blood-and-shit-and-piss end.   14yo me found great solace and meaning in faith when my elderly granma passed away and my mom had a nervous breakdown.    Faith is now, instead, something to be grappled with as my 30yo friend (with 2 small kids) wastes away from pancreatic cancer.   And if it were my child who died like that?  Faith would almost be beside the point; I would be insane.  it has been a long time since I lost anyone close to me, but it is not hard to imagine how it strikes me differently now than it did 20 years ago.

-Christian/doubting Thomas of sorts[/quote]

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