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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My uncle sent a letter of this nature to his birthmother, who was 16 years older. He never heard back. That took a while for him to process.[/quote]

My sister did the same and got the same response.  She had always assumed she was the product of a teenage relationship and that her birth mother was forced to give her up because the birth mother was so young.  But when my sister had her adoption file opened, she discovered her parents were actually married, her father was incarcerated at the time of her birth, that the parents already had other children and just didn't want another one.  Her parents are STILL together and her father is out of jail.  Her parents have no interest whatsoever in connecting with her. They refuse to give her any information her potential bio siblings.  They simply said "don't ever contact us again"  It devastated her, and broke my heart too.[/quote]

Adoptive parent here. Our agency told us that a lot of people assume kids are given up by teens or young single parents and apparently that is not true. A lot of kids given up are from situations like yours. A lot more that we would think. Our DD was born to a single parent but she has 2 other children that live with her. They were 3 and 4 when DD was born. Not sure how that is going to affect her if and when she finds out.[/quote]

By the same token, many women who get abortions are married with children. It is a myth that only penniless teenagers who don't know what being a mother means give babies up for adoption or have abortions.[/quote]

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