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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm divorced.  And more than half my married girlfriends have confided that they would love to be where I am.  But they're stuck in their marriages for mostly financial reasons.  And the majority of my unhappy friends are SAHMs with no earning potential.  So they truly are stuck.  I feel so bad for them.  [/quote]

It would be very interesting to see a study that deals with your comment. If 40-50% of marriages end in divorce, of the remaining 50-60% what percent wish they were divorced, what percent are generally unhappy and what percent are happy? Has anyone out there seen anything like this? [/quote]

Look, I am married and when I am cranky about marriage I complain to my single or divorced girlfriends because dissatisfaction in the man department is a common experience. I am happy, even very happy, at least half the time in my marriage but I don't share those feelings with my single and divorced girlfriends because I feel that would be mean. I guarantee you that you are not getting the full picture and you are probably also selecting to spend more time with people who reinforce your view of the world.

To suggest that pretty much everyone who is married wishes they were divorced reeks of bias. [/quote]

I agree. I'm not going to gush to my divorced friends (...or, honestly, anyone. Nobody likes that person) about all the wonderful times and he great parts of my marriage and how happy my husband makes me. People vent to each other. Marriage is long and life is hard. There have even been phases where we're going through a particularly rough patch and I've questioned staying married...but then we come out of it and are even stronger and I'm so happy we're married. But yes, venting to close friends is part of how you get through the tough times, and I agree I'm especially unlikely to share my joy and loving feelings with single / divorced friends - it seems cruel. [/quote]

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