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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Please don't think it is good for your baby to be engaged all day.  Poor baby, that sounds exhausting for it.  Also, it is good for babies to watch people do regular chores and stuff.  They think it is interesting to watch and it raises them in a realistic environment where they learn the world does not revolve around them every second, and that people clean up, do tasks and it is not some huge burden, etc.

You are doing your baby a long term disservice by cooing over it and doing nothing but "play" 24/7.[/quote]

It's actually not unusual for young babies to want to be held A LOT.  It is also not unusual for babies to pitch fits if they are left unattended in their playpens while mom scrubs floors on her hands and knees.  Babies do not have long, adult like attention spans.  They are....babies.

I SAH when my kids were little and I cleaned my house (as best as I could).  Having a weekly or biweekly cleaning service would have been nice.  I would never begrudge a SAHP for having that.[/quote]

Of course, newborns should be held a lot (probably most of the time) and babies/toddlers want to be near mom.  But that's different than talking constantly to a baby. Babies need to have space to explore on their own.  That doesn't mean off in a playroom, but maybe it's playing with the kitchen spoons on the floor while mom makes lunch without mom commenting on every little thing he does.[/quote]

Once they get out of the needing to be held 24/7 stage, they soon get into the mobile baby/toddler stage where they 1) still need very close supervision 2) still have pretty short attention spans 3) can make messes faster than you can clean them up.  You can literally spend your whole day picking up, cleaning up, chasing after, feeding, dressing, bathing....and never have a moment of spare time to get the floor mopped.

Little children are wonderful and sweet and lots of fun.  But if you expect to maintain your sanity you will either learn to lower your expectations regarding the cleanliness of your house or you will hire weekly or biweekly cleaning help.  Or you will learn to ignore a shrieking toddler in a "baby proof" playpen.  One of the 3.[/quote]

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