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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  I'm going to try to answer the two pp's directly above.

When I first found out I was pregnant, I specifically said to him that he did not have to be involved if he didn't want to be.  [b]He insisted that wasn't possible because his parents would never forgive him so he was stuck in an impossible situation.  [/b]To be perfectly honest, at that moment, I thought the stress of the pregnancy was getting to him and he wasn't really being himself so I thought I'd let him cool off and see how things go.  Things never got any better, but every time I tried to pull away he would put a massive guilt trip on me about how our son deserves to know his grandparents, bla bla bla.  I admit that I made a huge mistake.  I should have done what your mom did and moved away years ago.  Honestly, I knew in my gut this would happen but I am a stupid optimist and was hoping for the best.  He definitely is not father material and I should have listened 8 years ago.  Yes, I would have been the bad guy then, but at least our son would not be going through this today.

He has not had any contact since I've posted originally.  I think he is done.  His parents have called me and said they'll try to talk to him, but I don't know what could possibly be accomplished.

We do not have formal custody, child support arrangement and at this moment I think that might work in my favor.  If I ever want to move, I don't have to go through the courts to get his approval and he will not care enough to initiate the process himself to stop me.  [/quote]

So he doesn't want to be a father, but his parents want to be grandparents. Could that work for you? Unless they are toxic, I think a relationship with grandparents is much better than nothing. [/quote]

Of course.  If his grandparents want to be involved that is totally fine.  [/quote]

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