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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes, that's why I divorced my cheater while the kids were still little.  Did not want them learning that.[/quote]

+1.  I also kicked out a cheater because I did not want either my son or daughter learning that behavior. [/quote]

I didn't realize it, but I learned to be a cheater from my parents, too. Ding, ding, ding.  WTF. [/quote]
Speaking as a reformed cheater, I definitely learned how to cheat from my parents. It sends a message about the (lack of) value to be placed on upholding your marriage vows when a parent cheats and the other condones it (and no matter what you tell yourself, your kids will perceive staying as having rolled over and accepted the cheating). Both tell you nonverbally that if you are really attracted to someone else, you should go for it and you'll probably get away with it.[/quote]

(I'm the WTF poster above).

How much do kids KNOW if they don't actually KNOW? I didn't know as a child that my parents had cheated (but I believe that it affected me, but I can't pinpoint anything). I am not sure that my children know I cheated. But they sure as hell knew something was wrong. Did I block stuff out or were my parents really good at hiding it?[/quote]

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