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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yup. My parents have a good life (money, travel, nice house) but they fought all the time when I was young, and still bicker and pick at each other constantly. They don't seem to like each other a lot of the time, and I've never seen them touch or have intimate moments beyond hugs or perfunctory pecks on the cheek before a business trip or something. The bickering is infuriating to be around and the reason I moved out the minute I could.

My DH and I are both very gentle, kind people. We always try to be nice to each other, always use please and thank you, try to remember that we're on the same team even when we disagree... we also are very cuddly and affectionate. I'm so happy with him and relieved that I can be in this kind of happy, functional relationship. [/quote]

But if you weren't happy with him, you might bicker too.[/quote]

Maybe. Or maybe I'd be an adult and either address the root cause of my unhappiness, or end the relationship if I didn't think it was salvageable. Subjecting your kids to 18 years of bickering, resentment, and disrespect is not the right solution, trust me. [/quote]

So divorce would have been better? Maybe. The root cause of the unhappiness is not resolvable.[/quote]

What is your deal? Unless you've met my parents, I don't think you're really in a poition to comment on their choices, whether or not their issues were resolvable, nor how their issues shaped my point of view. I was just sharing an example of how sometimes witnessing a bad marriage shows you exactly what to avoid when you get there yourself. [/quote]

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