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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I deal with this with My DH and his family as [b]we just communicate and 'plan' differently.[/b] I learned to start communicating differently. For example: in response to her morning text I would have said "Great! We are excited to see you. I do have a few things planned for today so let me know what time I can expect you so I am sure to be home." or "Give me a head's up when you are about an hour away so I can be sure to be home." I would do this even if I am not going anywhere. [/quote]

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This poster is spot on. In your MIL mind,  she may have thought, I'm on errands right now so I'll text when I know for sure I'm on my way there so I can be more precise about the time.  I've already given a heads up many hours before. I know some people when they are around will say, oh I'll be home you can stop by whenever and they are fine with a text when you are on the way.  Especially if I'm on errands and don't know when I'll be done, I'm happy for that flexibility.

In your mind you are planning your day out and trying to figure out if you have time to do different things like go on a walk, go to the park, to the store, put the baby in for a nap etc.  You are in limbo not knowing a timeframe.  I thought the way pp said to commucate was very direct with no room for miscommunication.[/quote]

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