Reply to 10 year old won't stay in his bed

Forum Index » Tweens and Teens

Reply to "10 year old won't stay in his bed"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We always lock our door. Our room is ours, their rooms are theirs. Everyone is entitled to privacy. My youngest son has ADHD and has never come to our room at night. He is perfectly capable of entertaining himself if he wakes up, and nothing scares him. I haven't had a child sleep in my bed since he was a year old. [/quote]

Well, let's hear it for the sancti-mommy with the perfect children... so glad you've finally showed up!  :roll:

How exactly does your sanctimonious, judgemental & arrogant post help the OP anyway?[/quote]

I didn't read this as sanctimonious or judgmental at all, but I do read a  lot of "defensive " in your post. Simply because PP has had success with a stern, black and white approach doesn't make her wrong or judgmental at all. Looks like her approach has had success, as opposed to coddling and enabling. [/quote]

PP's child had ADHD.  That's very different than a child with anxiety disorder.  I've had success with my kids sleeping in their beds too, but I'm not patting myself on the back for my "success" story.  My kids don't have anxiety.  My friend's kid does, and it permeates many aspects of her life. Until you've interacted with a child with real anxiety, you have no clue.  I read the pp's post as sanctimonious and judgmental.  [/quote]

I have a child with ADHD & one with ADHD & anxiety & the poster who wrote that the child with ADHD & anxiety (or just anxiety) usually develops separation anxiety is absolutely right!

My one with ADHD never slept a night in our bed, the one with ADHD & anxiety, has always gotten up some time to climb in with us.

It's the ANXIETY that's doing this & by locking them out or giving them "tough love" or "requiring him to stay in his room" are ALL the wrong approach & as the PP sous, you will only perpetuate the problem further by doing this.

They'll eventually stop on their own, however but by pushing them away or in essence "punishing" them by doing any of the suggestions above, you'll only make it worse & desk with it longer.

Could you buy him something like this for next to your bed?
https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B000H1MRJO/ref=mp_s_a_1_6_a_it?ie=UTF8&qid=1493394925&sr=8-6&keywords=toddler%2Bbeds&th=1&psc=1

Also, agree with everyone else... that post was sanctimonious & judgemental to the core.
[b]
People, if you've never dealt with a child with anxiety issues, don't give advice on what this parent should do![/b][/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics