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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This isn't about vanity. As a Stage III cancer survivor myself, it was about avoiding the pity, the awkward silences, others breakdowns over my condition. Visitors were more stress than the cancer, not to mention I was immunocompromised for the entire treatment period and the next year. The best thing for me was just to do my treatments and enjoy a more quiet life for the time being. [/quote]

yes yes yes.

Saving the bandwidth for what is useful and helpful.

Good for you PP- Keep Going! WOOT![/quote]

Yes...I was going to say the same thing.

I went through treatment for breast cancer too. Sure, there was a little vanity on my part - but they make really great real hair wigs these days that I took to my hairdresser to have cut/colored just like my hairstyle.

I am a very social person and I too found myself avoiding social occasions because people don't know what to say to you/how to talk to you. The look of pity or discomfort on their faces was something I was happy to avoid. It was exhausting helping everyone else get the reassurance THEY needed to deal with my cancer diagnosis.

That said. Her feelings may evolve as she goes through treatment. I didn't find it to be nearly as awful as I was expecting it to be.

Some great friends bought me gorgeous false eyelashes to wear (sephora) and chipped in to buy me a very expensive/attractive wig. I always wore my wig because I wanted to look as normal as I could specifically to avoid questions from people. The other parents at our DD's school had no idea that I was going through treatment - which was fine with me.

Give her the space she needs and see how things go for her.[/quote]

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