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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Chemotherapy varies. I'm certainly in the camp of honoring he wishes of the patient, but also being good relatives if there is depression on top of it.  All I want to say here is that chemo and chemo experiences vary.

Chemo really varies. Not all chemo patients are terribly immune suppressed. Many people work part time during the process.  I did ban people during all periods when my husband was feeling sick from the chemo, but for about 8 days in every 2 week cycle he was up and around. He worked part time. There are many people on chemo leading full and active lives. [/quote]

Stage III survivor here. It's not really the chemo that varies; it is the type of cancer, the stage, and the grade. Stage IIA cervical cancer is not nearly as invasive as a Stage IIIB (example based on the surgery OPs mom had). They use entirely different drugs. I had 3 different cycles with 3 different drugs. Two of them I could've passed as "just having the flu" for the entire winter. The last one put me in the hospital for the better part of 6 months. That's the one where my skin became patchy and thin, my eyes sunk, I lost weight, I needed constant IV fluids. I tried telecommuting and had to give it up when I was only conscious for a couple hours a day and couldn't focus. I had (and still have) chemo brain where I can't remember basic things. It was my life and question and I would have absolutely cut out anyone who went against my wishes. Don't think you know better and everyone feels better with their friends and family around them. I felt best when I was drugged and not worrying about why you look like you're going to cry sitting in the chair next to me. [/quote]

No, I meant the chemo (although what chemo you get is a function of what you need).  Stage III caregiver here - Mileage varies.  That point remains true.  Generally speaking, Many people continue to work during the time between infusions, albeit with a lighter schedule.  I'm sorry your seem to have gotten a rough draw on symptoms.  It sucks.  Good luck with the chemo brain. It is a challenge.

Of course, no one should have visitors while feeling crappy or nearly unconscious unless they want visitors.  However, the point remains that many people live their lives on the days in between infusions.  A Stage IV friend of mine continues to sing in a choir, and another Stage IV friend, since deceased, flew out to visit me on her "good week". You couldn't do this, but we don't know what will happen to MIL. [/quote]

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