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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All men cheat in their heads. It is a fact. Some are better than pretending they don't than others.

But, it takes a special man to act on it.

As a married man who knows many married men, I would say that most men that cheat do not look to do so. Most of it is circumstance. But it is important to consider how one's behavior puts yourself in those circumstances.

The reasons why men would put themselves in those circumstances is another question that I don't have an answer to, as it is probably different for every man. A suspect a lot of it though is rooted either in self-destructive impulses and some other of it is rooted in emotional dissatisfaction and some combination of the above.

You also have to throw in a lack of maturity as well, because honestly most men don't grow up in situations where women are falling all over them. Most men go through adolescence and young adulthood deathly afraid of girls and women because they hold all the cards, particularly the most crucial one, destroying your ego/self-esteem. So as we get older, get good careers, the dynamic shifts and we realize that we actually have power over women. And there are plenty of women that will throw themselves at you as a married man. The trick is being mature enough to realize that time has passed, to consider your commitments and to get over it not act on it.

In the end though, most men do not cheat, despite opportunities. Only a small percentage do.[/quote]

This.

Also, our marriage counselor says a remarkably high number of men are unfaithful in the first year of marriage (when most couples are boinking like crazy). It's not about sex. It's about power and self-esteem/self-destruction and maturity and opportunity.  [/quote]

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