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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]1. What is your definition of a good catch?
2. Why objectify men by characterizing them as objects to be caught or acquired?[/quote]

Common sense?

A good catch:

- Well rounded guy [b]who comes from a good family[/b]
- [b]Has a respectable career earning a decent living = 150k+[/b]
- Kind and generous
- Has interest and hobbies
- A good member of society

The 30 + single guys I know are either:

- Workaholics who have deep personality or commitment issues
- Loser underachievers who have low self esteem and will not amount to much

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What do the two bold parts have anything to do with being a good catch or not unless you are looking for (you fill in the blank)

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Do you think a guy who comes with an abusive or dysfunctional family and have them be your in laws is a valid arrangement? Do you want an ignorant grandmother for your kids or an alcoholic grandfather for them?

Do you really think a guy earning 50k at a think tank is a catch?[/quote]

First, I guess you and I are thinking of two extremes in terms of "good family". I thought when saying good family = wealthy family based on the 150k requirement. Mea culpa.  However, not being from a good family should not be a disqualifier, especially if the guy has all the other traits. [b]This means he has the grit and discipline to be such a great guy despite having grown up in a dysfunctional family, and that only says more of his positive character more than anything else. [/b]

Second, the difference between 150k and 50k is stark. Anybody with some career ambition in the DC area will have a decent income, but that doesn't mean a 150k salary. If, for example, he is a fed employee, that'll mean he has to be near the top max payscale. [/quote]

I just want to put a plug in for all of the single ladies out there to vet the family first. My DH exactly fits your bolded description and yes, we have persevered and have an awesome life, but it is no walk in the park dealing with a dysfunctional, good-for-nothing family, believe me. [/quote]

This is OP.

The bad family is precisely why I broke up with my ex. We had issues but the crazy family bit was the nail in the coffin. The problem with this is that unless the person is extremely self aware and mature, he can be desensitized to a lot of crazy abnormal toxic behavior rampant in his family.  I do not want to raise a family with someone who thinks having a smothering ignorant toxic mother is normal. Nor did I want my children to hear there grandfather get drunk and say irresponsible and mean things about minorities and the poor.

I'm sorry I just...couldn't.  My number 1 requirement is that my children, if I should have some, grown up in a safe loving and enriching home with kind intelligent people.

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I agree but if he is great in all other aspects and those people live in another state or he's willing to move...it might work. If you want to have kids you need to be somewhat flexible. [/quote]

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