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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The behavior is probably mostly forgotten, but your absence will refresh it in peoples minds.  If they see that you've forgiven him and moved on, they're more likely to do the same.  [/quote]

Doing worry about what others think of you, they don't pay your mortgage, right?  
They're not there for the day to day. 
You see them what? one or two times a year?  
They mean nothing.

Please don't be like other posters on this board who live their lives worrying about what other people think of them.  That's wasted time & SO much wasted energy... allowing it only gives them power over you & your emotions.

[b]Never give up your power, especially to those who virtually mean nothing to you[/b].[/quote]

Amen, I agree with both posters quoted here.[/quote]

OP here: Thanks everyone.  I do care what people think of me, but I need to learn not to. I really like the bolded statement above and I need to remember it. 
During this experience, I also realized I don't have a friend whom I can tell this to without feeling judged and that's pretty sad. But that's another post.

I'm sorry, I can't give details. I will say that it wasn't cheating and did not involve grabbing someone's a$$.

I do work and we have kids so I could come up with the excuse, but it is something we have done every year so I will probably go. 
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Oh OP, my heart breaks for you after reading the sentiment that you have nobody to speak to about this.

I'm the one that wrote that quote & I really do try to live my life by that, but I also know how hard it is not to care what other people think of me (when I have allowed it to bother me, it's usually more about what the other mother's think of me.  I'm not originally from this area & I find that women down here judge each other most harshly as mothers, more than anything else).

I know we don't know each other & this is supposed to be an anonymous forum, but if you ever want to talk to somebody (I'd never ask you about this though) somebody that's impartial & NON judgmental, you can email me.

I lived my entire life in NYC & I know exactly how it feels to live somewhere where you feel you don't have a trusted confidant, someone to discuss the latest episode of Big little lies or Game Of Thrones, or just someone to shoot the sh!t with.  I've made some really great girlfriends down here, bit I remember how alone I felt when I first moved.
So, please feel free to reach out to me... I won't be offended if you don't, but the offer is there. :)

nystylist10011@gmail.com[/quote]

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