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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why are you in charge of cooking dinner AND cleaning up?  Why doesn't DH do one or the other?  You are doing every single household chore.  Why aren't your kids helping with cleaning up their toys?

No wonder so many of you want a divorce, you let your men be useless.  My husband would NEVER get away with this, and he grew up in the Middle East, far from our "enlightened" society where women have the freedom to... do all the work all the time?[/quote]

At first it was because he was always working. He worked very long days, would often work late into the night and would sometimes have to go in early on top of that. I think he just thinks that because he works so hard (which I have said I appreciate very much) his first priority when NOT working should be to take that spare time and relax. He doesn't seem to consider that his making his own relaxation a priority is to my and our detriment. And yes I've said that to him multiple times before.

Also his parents have this relationship x10. His father is beyond useless, but works hard. His mother never worked and raised 4 kids, of whom he is the youngest. He seems to try to model their dynamic with me. [/quote]

So what?  Who cares how he grew up, and who cares how long his hours used to be?  You are saying he is prioritizing his own time over the family, and that talking to him about it doesn't work.

So guess what, here is a thing you can do: stop TALKING to him about it and just stop doing chores for him.  It's really that simple.  You don't need to talk to him about it, because men don't really care about talking anyway.  You don't need his buy-in, just create a circumstance where he feels compelled to do some damn chores.[/quote]

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